"The word listen contains the same letters as the word silent."
Alfred Brendel-classical pianist

Are you  good listener?  I think I am.  Maybe because as I was growing up, I was taught to be quiet while adults talked.  My Mom always had to have the last word and lots in between.  I know I did not talk while adults were talking or I might get a pat on my heini.  Usually you knew to keep quiet unless you were asked a question.  I was a shy child and an even shyer adult until somewhere around 40, when I began to come out of my shell.  I know a lot of people who have known me the last 10 or 20 years probably would never believe that.  If he hadn't lived it, I don't think hubby would have either.

I've known people who never listen to what you are saying.  They are busy thinking what they want to say next.  So they never respond to what you have said and miss the point of most conversations.  I know I did this for awhile.  A quote about this made me stop and think.  I became a much better listener; being silent when the other person was speaking; concentrating on their words and their facial movements. 

In my older years, I have also learned to think before I speak.  That saves a lot of misunderstood conversations and hurt for the listener.  When I am talking to someone, I want their attention.  I want them to look at my face, make eye contact, and show they are there and not a million miles away.  That is where I am now.  I listen with my whole being; think about it; and make a comment if necessary.  Those are hard lessons to learn but worth it.  Nothing like a wonderful conversation with give and take.  Some of life's lessons are best learned that way.